Femme Fatale

The boyfriend called about 2 minutes ago.

"Honey, wanna meet up for a quick lunch?"

"Sure!"

"Alright, will be there in 15 minutes".

His office is in Sri Kembangan, mine in Kelana Jaya. He had a meeting at Glenmarie and it just ended. I have a meeting to attend in Dataran Prima at 2pm. It’s 12.25pm now.

Why would we still wanna have lunch together when we know it’s gonna be a rushed one? We still need to decide where to eat and look for parking, which leaves us with even less time for lunch. But we still want to do it anyhow. Why?

Because we WANT to.

Because we know that despite the limited time we had to see each another and enjoy our lunch at the same time, the meet-up would be a good break for both of us from our busy schedule. It will make us happier to be able to enjoy each another’s company (even if its only for a short while), and it helps to make the second half of the day go by much easier.

It’s these little things that keep our relationship alive and going. You know, just sipping coffee / tea (or alcohol in our case) on the beach watching the sun go down, having heart-to-heart conversations in bed in the wee hours of the morning, taking long walks around the neighbourhood (while the dogs bark their sorry asses off), going off on impulsive trips, getting happily pissed drunk together and laughing so hard when the other party does something so totally crazy (like failing miserably to jump across a fountain), or even just having drinks at the nearby mamak, watching other people misbehave.

Expensive presents doesn’t matter. But a good conversation does.

That leather jacket in TopShop doesn’t feel as good as having his arms wrapped around you to keep you warm.

It’s good to show off that Carolina Herera, Chic he bought for you but it’s nothing compared to feeling that WONDERFUL feeling when he inhales in the scent of your hair and lets go a satisfied sigh…

I always get asked, "How can you be so in love with someone?" - especially when that someone drives me up the wall more often than not….and my answer is always the same, "Because I WANT things to work out".

Going through my emails today, I found this very interesting dialogue between Noah and his wife and it is exactly how i feel.

Noah: Would you just stay with me?
Allie: Stay with you? What for? Look at us, we are already fighting.
Noah: Well that’s what we do. We fight. You tell me when I’m being an arrogant son of a bitch and I tell you when you are being a pain in the ass. Which you are 99% of the time. I’m not afraid to hurt your feelings. You have like a two second rebound rate and you’re back to doing the next pain in the ass thing.
Allie: So what.
Noah: So it’s not going to be easy. It’s going to be really hard. And we’re going to have to work at this every day. But I want to do that because I want you. I want all of you, forever, every day.

"The best love is the kind that awakens the soul and makes us reach for more, that plants a fire in our hearts and brings peace to our minds. And that’s what you’ve given me. That’s what I’d hope to give to you forever."

There is no such thing as the RIGHT man / woman for anyone because nobody’s perfect. Everyone has a flaw, some maybe more than others, but one way or another, there is bad and good in everyone. It’s how you learn to accept these flaws and make them into something beautiful. It’s how you learn to live with these imperfections and turn them to your advantage for a stronger, better relationship. It’s about how much you WANT to work things out and how far you are willing to go to MAKE sure that it does work out.

As long as both parties are willing to put in an effort to make things work, you can overcome whatever obstacles that comes your way. Be it that mother who doesn’t want to bless your marriage, or that guy who is not willing to let go of his current girlfriend for you eventhough he has confessed his endless love to you endlessly, or even that ‘Ex’ who has suddenly popped into the picture, you WILL pull through.

And this is EXACTLY what I want for mine.   

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